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[elucreh]

My sister and I have a wierd relationship. Part of it, of course, is that she did not become my sister until I was 13 and she was 19; but part of it is who we are.

She cornered one of my friends after church today--sorry, JapanBoy, I didn't know she was going to do that--and badgered him until he told her what he knew of my recent life. (BTW, if you RL folks are reading this--I am fine. I've just been falling back into my own patterns and it's a little compounded by being confused and a little lost.) She would rather, please note, capture a friend of mine...someone she doesn't even know very well...and refuse to go away until he talked than ask me. So she gets all she can out of him, and then she comes to confront me.

She starts out by asking what's going on with me, inviting me to talk. In three seconds, we've been diverted to her love life.

I did that on purpose. I don't like it when she pokes at my privacy--if I wanted her to know I would have told her, dammit, when I want advice or I want to talk about it I go to the people I want to talk to about it, and I talk to them about it. I know how to ask for advice/support/listening-to-whining when I need it.

But it was so easy. And that's why I don't want to talk to her about it. I realise she's trying, and she does care, but she is so...self-focused. I spent forty minutes listening to her rapture about her latest, and didn't actually tell her a thing about what she wanted to ask me about. Her original intention might have been to poke at me and mine, but it was, instead--as it always is, even when I do occasionally try to take things to her--about her. It would have been even worse if I'd gone to her, and not purposely diverted her...my feelings would have been hurt into the bargain. And yet she wonders why we're not close, why I'm not a fan of spending a lot of time with her...*sigh*

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[gryfindormia.livejournal.com]

So what did...er, JapanBoy...tell her? Poor JapanBoy

And I love your sister, too, but honestly...*sighs/hugs along*

I left you voicemail, did you even get it? How are you doing?

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

That I'd tried with Peter, that we wanted different things, that I'd disappeared for a while, and that I'd been worrying you lot.

No, I didn't get it...the cell doesn't always ring in this house, remember.

[gryfindormia.livejournal.com]

So wait, I was brought up in the convo with the sis?

The cell may not always ring but it will still get voicemail, but now that you've posted this, that's okay.

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

...what? What do you mean, you came up? *gives you confused look*

[gryfindormia.livejournal.com]

My question was what did JapanBoy say to her. Your answer was "That I'd tried with Peter, that we wanted different things, that I'd disappeared for a while, and that I'd been worrying you lot." So...huh? What am I supposed to be reading?

[adalanne.livejournal.com]

Mia, "you"="you all" as in the entire group, not just you personally. ^_^

[gryfindormia.livejournal.com]

Sorry, it's just that she said in response to me. Why can't our language have a you plural form?

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

"You lot" as in "the lot of you". All of you. The group.

[gryfindormia.livejournal.com]

Yep, realize that now thanks be to the Ady person.

[wildebeth.livejournal.com]

Hey,

Sorry I haven't been around much during your ordeal with romance. :( I have been very close to where you've been the last little while, and I wish I had been paying closer attention to what's going on with you. *heel*

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all of this. First relationships are so very difficult, particularly when you're just not ready to be in one. Don't give up yet, k? It's worth it to date around a little bit, though I'm sure that's pretty hard to do considering a lot of your moral and religious values.

Herm. I'm glad you're doing what's best for you: giving it time. And definitely good on you for releasing him from possible devastation. Seriously, what good guy could resist falling head over heels for you?

Love you, Lu. :-*

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

I love you too, my Beffers. Thanks for the advice. *hugs*

[ny-for-life.livejournal.com]

Hey, you...

I hope you're feeling beter now... I called your cell and left a message. Remember, don't stress, okay?

I'll talk to you again soon, hopefully. We'll get together at Travis' again or something.

Thinking of you (hope it's okay to say that... you know how I mean it), as usual. :)

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

I am better, thanks. I'll talk to you soon.

[adidi.livejournal.com]

oh man, i know so many people like that. after a while it's like grrr. you can't have such a rich relationship with them.

[ny-for-life.livejournal.com]

Oh, and why does your fandom not have any mimes? Mimes are fun.

;)

Just trying to lighten the mood. :P

[bluedaisy62.livejournal.com]

Sigh. Sisterly relationships can be so tough. Especially when prying is involved. :(

~T