Eeeek...

[elucreh]

My sister's best friend, Elisabeth, is a nanny for a family. Two girls, plus a boy and a girl part-time. Occasionally, when she's been busy, I've babysat for them. Addie, the older one, likes me, and Meg (less than a year old, still) is an absolute doll. The best-behaved baby I've ever worked with, and very very sweet.

Apparently Elisabeth is being fired. And they want ME instead.

I don't know how to react to this. I mean...on the one hand, dream come true, I love those girls, I've always wanted to nanny, they pay very generously and the hours will be flexible.

On the other hand...I love Elisabeth. She's a good friend to me and one of the best things that's ever happened to Jen (my sister). And I'm benefiting from this...and she doesn't even know she's being fired yet. They told JENNY before they told her (how unprofessional is that?)...arrrgh.

I can't quite celebrate because I hate that this is happening because she's losing her job. And it's not like she wouldn't be fired if I didn't take the job, or that she wouldn't be happy for me...it's just hard for ME to be happy for me.

Comments

[jane-rucker.livejournal.com]

You should talk to her about it before you make a decision. I'm sure if she cares about you she'll be fine with it.

Jane

[reila.livejournal.com]

Whoa. What a horrible situation. But...I'd go with what Jane said. If she's your friend, I think she'll understand.

[invisblegrl.livejournal.com]

Getting things out in the open is usually better in sticky situations like that. Jane is right.

But, whatever, happens, good luck.

[adalanne.livejournal.com]

I agree with Jane. I'm sure it'll work out fine.

[bluedaisy62.livejournal.com]

Aww. I know no one can MAKE you not feel bad, but I do hope you're able to do that for yourself. Congratulations if you decide to take the job. I really do think everything happens for a reason, so who knows? Maybe this could work out for the best for both of you. ~T

Oookayy...

[gryfindormia.livejournal.com]

Question: Is this in Utah? When will you babysit if you're in Oklahoma? What did she do that was so bad that got her to be fired?

Okay, exnay on that last question, that can be a tad personal, but the other two? Wow.

V. upset with the people who told you before her. Yes, you're correct, "unprofessional."

Ditto to Jane.

[magnoliasouth.livejournal.com]

Well, I guess I'm going to throw in a totally different view on the matter. Without knowing why Elisabeth was/is being fired, I'm a little bit (okay, maybe a lot) on the appalled side that they would talk about this with others before speaking to her. Who is to say that they won't do this very same thing to you?

There are a lot of variables here though. If Elisabeth only worked there for a short time, then I could understand it... perhaps (though honestly I couldn't). Yet, if she was truly dedicated and had been there awhile, I worry what would happen to you later.

All in all, what matters most is how you feel about it. If you feel you can trust them, then I'm honestly happy for you and you should be too. If you have a doubt, I would just spit it right out there to them and set the record straight, once and for all. It's not what you say, but how you say it. You could say something along the lines of "I just have this concern about the firing of Elisabeth and I need to hear some reassurance on your part..." or something like that.

::Hugs:: to you dear!

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[elucreh.livejournal.com]

That's what's worrying me, too...they have no business doing this...and she's been working for them for YEARS.

On the other hand, it's only a summer job, so it's not as much a consideration. I just don't know. I don't want to damage my or my sister's relationship with her. And I don't like the idea of working for people who would tell her best friend before telling her and then ask her to find a replacement. It's just not right.

[akazaam.livejournal.com]

wow...that's a tough situation. i like the idea of talking to her first, AND talking to the potential hirers, and tell them you're interested but why you're hesitant. hmm.. that'll be really hard. here's lots of hugs and luck :D